‘Hell No!’: Eric Garner’s Widow Rejects Officer’s Apology Amid Shock Over Grand Jury’s Decision

The family of Eric Garner addressed the nation Wednesday after a grand jury announced its decision not to indict an NYPD officer in Garner’s death. Garner, a Staten Island man who had asthma, died on July 17 after Officer Daniel Pantaleo placed him in a prohibited police chokehold during an arrest. Police suspected Garner, who was black, of selling untaxed cigarettes on the sidewalk. The incident was captured on video, where Garner can be heard repeatedly telling officers “I can’t breathe!” before his body goes limp. At a press conference Wednesday at the Harlem headquarters of the National Action Network, the advocacy group founded by Al Sharpton, Garner’s widow, Esaw Garner, and his mother, Gwen Carr, expressed their disappointment with the grand jury’s decision…

The family of Eric Garner addressed the nation Wednesday after a grand jury announced its decision not to indict an NYPD officer in Garner’s death.

Garner, a Staten Island man who had asthma, died on July 17 after Officer Daniel Pantaleo placed him in a prohibited police chokehold during an arrest. Police suspected Garner, who was black, of selling untaxed cigarettes on the sidewalk. The incident was captured on video, where Garner can be heard repeatedly telling officers “I can’t breathe!” before his body goes limp.

At a press conference Wednesday at the Harlem headquarters of the National Action Network, the advocacy group founded by Al Sharpton, Garner’s widow, Esaw Garner, and his mother, Gwen Carr, expressed their disappointment with the grand jury’s decision and their frustration that Pantaleo would not be held accountable by a court.

Esaw Garner became visibly angry when asked if she accepted the apology Pantaleo had issued earlier that day. In a statement, Pantaleo offered his condolences to the family and said he never intended to harm Garner.

“Hell no!” Garner replied. “The time for remorse would have been when my husband was yelling to breathe.”

“No, I don’t accept his apology. No, I could care less about his condolences,” she continued. “He’s still working. He’s still getting a paycheck. He’s still feeding his kids, when my husband is six feet under and I’m looking for a way to feed my kids now.”

“Who’s going to play Santa Claus for my grandkids this year?” she said. “Who’s going to play Santa Claus?”

Garner and Carr, along with Sharpton — who has worked closely with the family since Garner’s death — have reportedly met with Attorney General Eric Holder, and the U.S. Justice Department has confirmed that it will conduct a civil rights investigation into the case.

“I’m determined to get justice for my husband,” Garner said Wednesday. “My husband’s death will not be in vain. I will fight till the end.”

Matt Sledge contributed reporting.

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Rand Paul Thinks Taxes Are Partly To Blame For Eric Garner’s Death

Sen. Rand Paul (R-Ky.) thinks the death of Eric Garner is symbolic of a much larger problem in American society: politicians levying taxes on things like cigarettes. During an interview on MSNBC’s “Hardball” Wednesday evening, Paul said that it was hard to watch the video of Garner being put in a chokehold and not be “horrified.” “But I think there’s something bigger than just the individual circumstances,” Paul said. “Obviously the individual circumstances are important, but I think it’s also important to know that some politician put a tax of $5.85 on a pack of cigarettes, so they’ve driven cigarettes underground…

Sen. Rand Paul (R-Ky.) thinks the death of Eric Garner is symbolic of a much larger problem in American society: politicians levying taxes on things like cigarettes.

During an interview on MSNBC’s “Hardball” Wednesday evening, Paul said that it was hard to watch the video of Garner being put in a chokehold and not be “horrified.”

“But I think there’s something bigger than just the individual circumstances,” Paul said. “Obviously the individual circumstances are important, but I think it’s also important to know that some politician put a tax of $5.85 on a pack of cigarettes, so they’ve driven cigarettes underground by making them so expensive.”

Paul went on to blame politicians for putting police in a position where they had to arrest someone for selling a loose cigarette.

“Some politician also had to direct the police to say, ‘Hey, we want you arresting people for selling a loose cigarette.’ And for someone to die over breaking that law, there really is no excuse for it,” Paul said. “But I do blame the politicians, we’ve put our police in a difficult situation with bad laws.”

Several other politicians expressed outrage over a grand jury’s decision not to indict Daniel Pantaleo, who placed Garner in a chokehold that led to his death this summer, as a matter of equal treatment under the law.

“We’re not just dealing with a problem in 2014, we’re not dealing with years of racism leading up to it, or decades of racism, we are dealing with centuries of racism that have brought us to this day. That is how profound the crisis is,” New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio (D) said on Wednesday.

President Barack Obama said on Wednesday that issues of mistrust between law enforcement and minority communities were “an American problem.”

“We are not going to let up until we see a strengthening of the trust and a strengthening of the accountability that exists between our communities and our law enforcement,” Obama said. “When anybody in this country is not being treated equally under the law, that’s a problem.”

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Diddy Responds To Eric Garner Decision: ‘I Can’t Take It Anymore’

In recent months, Sean “Diddy” Combs has been especially vocal about current events. The entertainment mogul took to his Instagram account in August to issue a message to President Barack Obama as tensions between protesters and police escalated in Ferguson, Missouri. And this Wednesday, Combs voiced his frustration over the recent non-indictments of police Officers Darren Wilson in Ferguson and Daniel Pantaleo in Staten Island, New York. Shortly after a grand jury announced Wednesday that Pantaleo would not be indicted for the death of Eric Garner in a prohibited police chokehold, Combs, 45, once again used his Instagram account to broadcast the following message to his 4.5 million followers: #WATCH …….I can’t take it anymore! It’s Enough, and enough is enough! Honestly my …

In recent months, Sean “Diddy” Combs has been especially vocal about current events. The entertainment mogul took to his Instagram account in August to issue a message to President Barack Obama as tensions between protesters and police escalated in Ferguson, Missouri. And this Wednesday, Combs voiced his frustration over the recent non-indictments of police Officers Darren Wilson in Ferguson and Daniel Pantaleo in Staten Island, New York.

Shortly after a grand jury announced Wednesday that Pantaleo would not be indicted for the death of Eric Garner in a prohibited police chokehold, Combs, 45, once again used his Instagram account to broadcast the following message to his 4.5 million followers:

#WATCH …….I can’t take it anymore! It’s Enough, and enough is enough! Honestly my emotions are all over the place. We as artists, myself included, all have to step up and be better leaders in our communities. It’s a hard burden to bear, but we have been chosen whether we like it or not. We need to do whatever we can in a POSITIVE way, to help unite people of all colors in this injustice! In order to be successful, it is very important that we have a well ORGANIZED, STRATEGIC plan. This is super important in order for us to make change!! REAL organization, REAL strategy and a TRUE commitment to not forget and move on like we usually do when the news stops reporting. This has to stop and we as a people are the only ones that can stop it. I truly do not have the right to preach, but I do have the right to speak. #EricGarner #MikeBrown #UNITE

Combs also posted a video clip, which you can see below.

I can’t take it anymore! It’s Enough, and enough is enough! Honestly my emotions are all over the place. We as artists, myself included, all have to step up and be better leaders in our communities. It’s a hard burden to bear, but we have been chosen whether we like it or not. We need to do whatever we can in a POSITIVE way, to help unite people of all colors in this injustice! In order to be successful, it is very important that we have a well ORGANIZED, STRATEGIC plan. This is super important in order for us to make change!! REAL organization, REAL strategy and a TRUE commitment to not forget and move on like we usually do when the news stops reporting. This has to stop and we as a people are the only ones that can stop it. I truly do not have the right to preach, but I do have the right to speak. #EricGarner #MikeBrown #UNITE

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#CrimingWhileWhite Explodes On Twitter Following Eric Garner Decision

The grand jury decision over the chokehold death of Eric Garner, announced Wednesday, was followed with public demonstrations in cities across the nation — and the Internet. Thousands of tweeters are up in arms against racial profiling and police brutality in America — issues that have been hard to ignore amidst recent protests for the lives of Michael Brown, Ezell Ford, Akai Gurley and others. #BlackLivesMatter and #HandsUpDontShoot have played a large role in addressing these issues on social media, but there’s a new hashtag in town: #CrimingWhileWhite. Instead of targeting incidents of disadvantage and prejudice against people of color, #CrimingWhileWhite quickly populated on Twitter Wednesday afternoon and zeroed in on white privilege, …

The grand jury decision over the chokehold death of Eric Garner, announced Wednesday, was followed with public demonstrations in cities across the nation — and the Internet.

Thousands of tweeters are up in arms against racial profiling and police brutality in America — issues that have been hard to ignore amidst recent protests for the lives of Michael Brown, Ezell Ford, Akai Gurley and others. #BlackLivesMatter and #HandsUpDontShoot have played a large role in addressing these issues on social media, but there’s a new hashtag in town: #CrimingWhileWhite.

Instead of targeting incidents of disadvantage and prejudice against people of color, #CrimingWhileWhite quickly populated on Twitter Wednesday afternoon and zeroed in on white privilege, straight from the mouths of those who know it best.

The perspective of #CrimingWhileWhite sheds a bright light on an ugly truth with a sharp focus; something you can see for yourself in examples below.

The claims in the following tweets have not been independently verified by The Huffington Post.

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Peter King Says Eric Garner Would Not Have Died From Chokehold Were He Not Obese

Rep. Peter King (R-N.Y.) said on Wednesday that if Eric Garner had been healthier, he would not have died after a police officer placed him in a chokehold. “If he had not had asthma, and a heart condition and was so obese, almost definitely he would not have died from this,” King told CNN’s Wolf Blitzer during an interview. Even though video captured Garner saying that he couldn’t breathe as officer Daniel Pantaleo placed him in a chokehold and wrestled him to the ground, King said that “police had no reason to know that he was in serious condition.” “The fact is if you can’t breathe, you can’t talk,” King said. “If you’ve ever seen anyone resisting arrest, I’ve seen it, …

Rep. Peter King (R-N.Y.) said on Wednesday that if Eric Garner had been healthier, he would not have died after a police officer placed him in a chokehold.

“If he had not had asthma, and a heart condition and was so obese, almost definitely he would not have died from this,” King told CNN’s Wolf Blitzer during an interview.

Even though video captured Garner saying that he couldn’t breathe as officer Daniel Pantaleo placed him in a chokehold and wrestled him to the ground, King said that “police had no reason to know that he was in serious condition.”

“The fact is if you can’t breathe, you can’t talk,” King said. “If you’ve ever seen anyone resisting arrest, I’ve seen it, and it’s been white guys, and they’re always saying, ‘You’re breaking my arm, you’re choking me, you’re doing this,’ police hear this all the time.”

In August, the New York City medical examiner ruled Garner’s death a homicide caused by compression to his neck and chest, in addition to the way that he was positioned on the ground as he was arrested. The medical examiner also determined that Garner’s asthma, obesity and hypertensive cardiovascular disease contributed to his death.

King added that there “was not a hint” that anyone used any racial epithets, and that if Garner were a “350-pound white guy, he would have been treated the same.”

Earlier on Wednesday, King took to Twitter to praise a grand jury’s decision not to indict Pantaleo, saying that it had done justice and refused to yield to outside pressure.

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The Second Civil Rights Movement

This week marks the 59th anniversary of Rosa Parks’ refusal to give up her seat on the public bus in Montgomery, Alabama. That single, courageous act, of course, did not happen in a vacuum. Long-simmering resentment, coupled with the presence of an active African-American community and a 26 year old pastor — Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. — became the Civil Rights Movement, which resulted in the Civil Rights, Voting and Fair Housing Acts that still resonate and have power today, notwithstanding the Roberts’ Court’s attempts to bury them under their misguided characterization of equity. But today, amidst the smoke and sorrow of Ferguson, it is clear that serious, substantial change is required in this …

This week marks the 59th anniversary of Rosa Parks’ refusal to give up her seat on the public bus in Montgomery, Alabama. That single, courageous act, of course, did not happen in a vacuum. Long-simmering resentment, coupled with the presence of an active African-American community and a 26 year old pastor — Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. — became the Civil Rights Movement, which resulted in the Civil Rights, Voting and Fair Housing Acts that still resonate and have power today, notwithstanding the Roberts’ Court’s attempts to bury them under their misguided characterization of equity.

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But today, amidst the smoke and sorrow of Ferguson, it is clear that serious, substantial change is required in this country. The first spark — like John Brown at Harpers Ferry — was lit, over 20 years ago, when Rodney King was beaten by Los Angeles police officers and the officers were acquitted by a state jury and, it seemed, the entire black community in Los angeles rose up in anger, frustration, rage and violence. Two decades later, it has taken the tragic shooting of Michael Brown, and the deliberate indifference of County Prosecutor Bob McCulloch to the African American community that resulted in protest and rioting to initiate a long-overdue national conversation on race.

Almost in parallel, the Latino community has been buffeted by vicious and racist statements about undocumented immigrants and immigration reform. In the past, this has resulted in xenophobic and militant reactions by antebellum-era Governors and retro-state legislators, not to mention political parties, as if the words “Latino” and “Mexican” and “illegal” are interchangeable. But fortunately, this is occurring at a time when Latinos have found their voice and power — at least, it seems to the entrenched politicians, during Presidential election cycles. Nevertheless, for millions of Latino residents in our borders, uncertainty of their future and scapegoating of their nature continues to be the norm, rather than the exception.

And we still exist in a job climate whose deep dysfunction seems to elude our political leadership, including President Obama, where the wage and income gap exponentially increases to the point where we are becoming (something we prided ourselves on explicitly not importing when we broke with England) a class-based society, stratified by wealth. We no longer talk about education being a gateway to all things possible. Now, if you’re not in STEM, you have no economic prospects in a tech and app-driven world. At best, you’ve been predestined to work for Walmart or Uber (if a person who thought they could retire at the age of 65 hasn’t beaten you to it). Occupy Wall Street and its progeny tried to highlight the deep inequities cleaving the American social contract and the lack of accountability of those responsible for the 2008 economic collapse. Three years later, all the usual suspects not only remain free, but still have an even greater stranglehold on the nation’s wealth.

Now, 13 years after 9-11, we are slowly but surely realizing that we have acquiesced in the establishment of a surveillance state both public and private. Our civil liberties — our right of privacy — is just a click away from oblivion.

And the final kicker is the continued unwillingness and inability of our goverment to take strong actions to reverse climate change.

We have a confluence of factors — increasing explicit and implicit racism, discrimination against newcomer and newly identified (LGBT) groups, rising income inequity, the lack of social justice, the end of individual privacy and the increasing harbingers of catastrophic climate change — that have been speeding pell-mell for decades, rocketing out-of-control despite (or because of) the feeble protestations of elected officials.

But as our society has separated and stratified into the interest group of the day, week or month, our ability to work together has fractured. In many ways, it is indicative of how broken the social contract of America has become, that the vision of the common weal is a kaleidoscope of conflicting agendas.

We have to change that.

We need to find a way for these disparate groups to come together, to work together, to form a common agenda, to find a common agenda. All the pieces are there. The leadership is there. And with the power of social media and the 24/7 news cycle, the ability to communicate is there. We need to do what the disparate groups in the 50s and 60s did to unite against institutionalized racism.

We need a second Civil Rights Movement.

What I mean by that is a coming together of individuals and groups around a common core of beliefs and a political and social agenda shaped to impel the political structure to make meaningful change. Serious, real, political change. Not change you can believe in. Change that you can create, one legislative district, one state, one office at a time.

And I say a Civil Rights Movement because everything I have described involves, affects or is required to establish a civil right. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know our basic civil rights and civil liberties are under constant attack. But economic equity demands a smarter, more inclusive economy across all segment of society. Improving our education system requires an investment in our inner cities that is more talk than walk today. Climate change affects everyone, but for decades power plants belching carcinogens have been disproportionately situated nearer poorer and minority communities. We are all connected more than we know or realize — or care to admit.

The Civil Rights Movement succeeded in part because it demonstrated the power of coalition building, because it exposed the face of segregation for its hatred and venality, and shamed the sympathetic bystanders in leadership positions for their inaction as pastors, students, mothers and fathers were arrested, beaten or murdered. It moved the populace, and more importantly, it moved the political structure, reluctantly, truculently, but inexorably. to change.

A Second Civil Rights Movement can bring together millions of Americans in unison to protest the inequities that not only divide our society, but are creating deeper, possibly insurmountable rifts in our national fabric. I believe that the potential — and I stress potential — to create the paradigm change that preserves the values of our democracy and brings citizens closer to the realization of that more perfect union.

But it doesn’t work if we don’t work together. It doesn’t work if a truly mass movement doesn’t arise from a commonality of interests. It doesn’t work if everyone remains in their silos, like solitary ICBMs aimed at disparate targets.

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Why? Because in the grand tradition of Franklin, we must all hang together, because in the day of Citizens United, we will assuredly all hang separately. The power of money can only by offset by the power of ideals — not ideas — multiplied exponentially through people power, and then magnified through social media. And right now, Big Money is picking us off, shooting down every single separate priority that we care about at the ballot or in the legislature through their political hand puppets. And thus we hang separately, one at a time.

I don’t presume to know how to make this movement happen. I do know that there are plenty of smart, motivated people who can. And I don’t presume to dictate the terms of what the Second Civil Rights Movement should rally around. I do have a few suggestions. But I’ll save that for later.

The American Dream, and the dream of Dr. King, is still within our grasp. There is still a shining city on a hill. But it will take all of us, hand in literal hand, to get there. So let’s start moving.

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Al Sharpton Calls For March In Washington After Eric Garner Ruling

NEW YORK, Dec 3 (Reuters) – Civil rights activist Al Sharpton on Wednesday called for a protest march in Washington following a New York grand jury decision not to indict a white policeman in the chokehold death of an unarmed black man. “We have no confidence in local state prosecutions because state prosecutors work hand in hand with the local police,” the veteran civil rights activist told a news conference in Harlem to announce the Dec. 13 march. Appearing with Sharpton were the mother and widow of Eric Garner, 43, a father of six who died in July after police used a banned chokehold while arresting him for selling loose cigarettes. “This thing is just breaking my heart, just pulling me apart,” said Gwen Carr, Garner’s mother. Esaw Garner, …

NEW YORK, Dec 3 (Reuters) – Civil rights activist Al Sharpton on Wednesday called for a protest march in Washington following a New York grand jury decision not to indict a white policeman in the chokehold death of an unarmed black man.

“We have no confidence in local state prosecutions because state prosecutors work hand in hand with the local police,” the veteran civil rights activist told a news conference in Harlem to announce the Dec. 13 march.

Appearing with Sharpton were the mother and widow of Eric Garner, 43, a father of six who died in July after police used a banned chokehold while arresting him for selling loose cigarettes.

“This thing is just breaking my heart, just pulling me apart,” said Gwen Carr, Garner’s mother.

Esaw Garner, his widow, said: “Who’s gonna play Santa Claus for my kids this year?” (Writing by Ellen Wulfhorst, Reporting by Frank McGurty; Editing by Sandra Maler)

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Cracked Wide Open Around Race

I am deeply disappointed about the grand jury decision not to indict in the killing of Eric Garner. If a man can be choked to death as bystanders shoot video; if we can hear him saying, “I can’t breathe;” if the coroner can rule his death as a homicide and we can’t get an indictment — there is something tragically wrong here. These United States were built on a fault line called racism and that line has cracked wide open. The way to repair the breach and fix what is broken is to work toward racial reconciliation. That means engagement, relationships, and courageous conversations that open our hearts to each other. We must move from segregated silos of congregations and neighborhoods and be in relationship with…

I am deeply disappointed about the grand jury decision not to indict in the killing of Eric Garner. If a man can be choked to death as bystanders shoot video; if we can hear him saying, “I can’t breathe;” if the coroner can rule his death as a homicide and we can’t get an indictment — there is something tragically wrong here.

These United States were built on a fault line called racism and that line has cracked wide open. The way to repair the breach and fix what is broken is to work toward racial reconciliation. That means engagement, relationships, and courageous conversations that open our hearts to each other.

We must move from segregated silos of congregations and neighborhoods and be in relationship with one another.

I serve a multiracial congregation. We are forced to bump into each other, to pray together, to sing together, and to work for justice together. Pam Edgar, a young white woman at my church, wrote this poem and shared it in our Sunday worship last week, in response to the events in Ferguson:

Justice
Two young men made mistakes that day
One is dead, the other walks away
There is no justice here

Wilson saw “a demon” and got scared
Brown’s large black body, unprepared
There is no justice here

No charges brought, no probable cause
Just a broken system to make us pause:
There is no justice here

Righteous indignation fills the night
Through angry bodies prepared to fight
There is no justice here

Protest, the language of the unheard
Challenging the norm of who gets the last word
There is no justice here

Parents whose arms can only hold pain
Questioning if their prayers were in vain
There is no justice here

Will anger and fear create a breach
Too great for human hearts to reach?
There is no justice here

I wear my whiteness like a stain
Knowing its privilege causes you pain
There is no justice here

I alone can’t make sense of all this
But it’s too essential for us to dismiss
There is no justice here

So in this place we lift up our hands
To pray, and listen and understand
How to bring God’s justice here

No more names to add to the list
A world where racism no longer exists
We pray God’s justice here

With all our difference and conflicts thereof
We choose to stand united in love
And claim God’s justice here.

It may seem like change isn’t happening. But, as Sam Cooke sang, “It’s been a long time coming, but I know a change is going to come.” We need beloved communities of faith to make this change and to stay committed to a movement for racial justice. Pam, a therapist and an artist, used her poetry to be a part of this movement toward racial reconciliation. Change happens one story, one relationship at a time. And all of the actions impact what comes next.

Do what you can, where you are, to make a peaceful noise for justice: march, write, sing songs of peace, and pray “until justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream.”

We must dismantle suspicion and fear, and build a coalition of peace. We need to sit down with law enforcement and with our elected officials and have tough conversations about how we will make this better — get this straight — together. My neighborhood police are ready to meet with the faith leaders in our community; invite yours to do the same.

We also need conversations with the people we love. If you want to commit to a conversation with your family, friends, or faith community, make space for deep questions and even the sharing of awkward sentiments. Here are some questions to use:

  • Why is this happening?
  • Aren’t we past race yet, and can I do anything about this?
  • What images in our culture reinforce racism?
  • How does my faith in God relate to these issues?
  • How can I heal from my own racism?

On Sunday, December 7 at Middle Collegiate Church, we will sing, pray, and talk about justice. We will worship together in community at 11:15 am and stay together for a Candid Conversation on Race.

Our nation is cracking wide open on the fault line of race. In order to repair what is broken, we need each other. We need to heal, to connect, and to be the change.

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Learning White-American History

Being African-American in America means knowing the country was not made for you. I mean this literally, not figuratively: The country was founded with the explicit legal mandate that in America, black people count as three fifths of one person. You learn that countrymen, brothers, and fathers of slaves fought and died to keep black people in chains. When legal slavery ended, a system of “justice,” which was often barbaric, was instituted to reinforce an order that had created extraordinary wealth (via free labor and exploitation), comfort, and prosperity, all of which benefited the nation as a whole. You learn that for another 100 years black people were, according …

Being African-American in America means knowing the country was not made for you. I mean this literally, not figuratively: The country was founded with the explicit legal mandate that in America, black people count as three fifths of one person. You learn that countrymen, brothers, and fathers of slaves fought and died to keep black people in chains. When legal slavery ended, a system of “justice,” which was often barbaric, was instituted to reinforce an order that had created extraordinary wealth (via free labor and exploitation), comfort, and prosperity, all of which benefited the nation as a whole.

You learn that for another 100 years black people were, according to law, second-class citizens in an apartheid state. Other highlights of those decades include the addition of most of the western United States, two world wars (which black Americans fought in), skyscrapers, the Great Depression, the eradication of polio in the U.S., and a Moon landing. Meanwhile, in other American communities little girls were escorted by police into schools while grown men lobbed objects at their heads, and churches were bombed, and four little girls died, and their mothers were told to remain calm and peaceful, and their communities were encouraged to do the same.

The psychological impact of those actions on the white “community” has never been discussed in popular American discourse, and the history of racism in America is now considered a “black” issue. In other countries where a government and/or its citizens are guilty of atrocities, there are often explicit exercises meant to confront the behaviors of all parties. The U.S. has never done that.

You are taught that nonviolent protests were the correct weapon in the fight for civil rights. You are told that it is the people who stood still while police released dogs who are the reason laws exist that acknowledge your humanity. You are taught that things got better after 1964 because the Civil Rights Act was signed in Washington, D.C. Black people were discouraged from complaining, from protesting, from asking questions after that, because now there was a law that said racism under the law was finished, and that was a huge win.

The economics of centuries of legal oppression, specifically in the area of property ownership, has had a dramatic impact on poor people in America generally, and on African Americans even more disproportionately. There is not 300, 200, or even 25 years of solid economic foundation for African Americans to stand on. While new immigrants to the U.S. were met with hostility, many would eventually gain access to property that black people often didn’t have access to until and even after the 1968 Fair Housing Act.

In America property means prosperity, which is why the U.S. Constitution so explicitly protects it (and why the housing bubble and the Great Recession are mostly synonymous). One of the most dehumanizing things you can do to a person is deny them access to the fruits of their labor, which is what America did by law up until 1964. The interpretation of the laws was left up to the same people in the states who were raised on the belief of white supremacy (justifiably, and in accordance with American law). So in today’s post-civil-rights-movement America you learn to fear the police because only white Americans get the benefit of the doubt; without that you are left with police who can act as judge, jury, and executioner.

This is what goes on in America. A cycle of rhetoric, bureaucracy, and legislation most citizens never read continues while deep-rooted fears, stereotypes, and biases keep people oppressed and the country chronically unstable.

I don’t know how America will handle this. Our history says that when there is agitation, we sometimes get new legislation, but it’s always for the sake of calming things down, never for addressing the heart of the issue. That is why #BlackLivesMatter works as a slogan. It is simple, obvious, and a slap in the face all at the same time, because in America those three words are political rather than simply true.

The best way I can explain my own sense of responsibility for what is happening now and the relationship to the ghosts of our past is with these words from James Baldwin:

“I know you didn’t do it, and I didn’t do it either, but I am responsible for it because I am a man and a citizen of this country and you are responsible for it, too, for the very same reason….”

Or, in the words of my mother, “I’m not worried about what they did. I’m worried about what you will do.”

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12 Terrible Tales Of Wedding Guests Behaving Badly

Every wedding has at least one them — guests who just can’t seem to keep their sh*t together. One Redditor recently asked users to share the “most appalling” wedding guest behavior they’ve ever witnessed. Below are 12 stories that range from mildly embarrassing to straight-up disgraceful. And yes, alcohol is often involved. 1. “At the reception, the new couple was sitting there with a long line of people waiting to pay their respects. The groom’s mother cuts in front and says in a really loud voice to the bride, ‘Your sister just told me to go f**k myself. What the f**k are you …

Every wedding has at least one them — guests who just can’t seem to keep their sh*t together.

One Redditor recently asked users to share the “most appalling” wedding guest behavior they’ve ever witnessed. Below are 12 stories that range from mildly embarrassing to straight-up disgraceful. And yes, alcohol is often involved.

1. “At the reception, the new couple was sitting there with a long line of people waiting to pay their respects. The groom’s mother cuts in front and says in a really loud voice to the bride, ‘Your sister just told me to go f**k myself. What the f**k are you going to do about it?'”

2. “The brother of the groom proposed to his significant other.”

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3. “I used to work for a wedding planner and one time a guest STOLE the bride’s dress. The bride had changed into a short, more comfortable dress for her grand exit. On the security cameras in the venue, you could see the guest run into the bathroom while everyone watched the couple leave and take the dress, which cost thousands of dollars, out the back door. She denied it until we threatened to press charges and then claimed, ‘I was going to wash it’ for the bride.”

4. “I farted really loud and the wedding just paused.”

5. “I was at a wedding maybe five years ago. The bride’s family was from northern Canada. During her speech, the groom’s mother said, ‘I want to thank the trailer folk for coming down.’ My mouth hit the ground.”

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6. “I was accompanying my girlfriend to her friends’ wedding. She goes off to mingle and tells me to put the gift on the table with the others. Few minutes go by with me standing at the bar, bored. She: ‘Quick. Get the present, we’re leaving!’ Me: ‘WTF?’ She: ‘Wrong wedding. Hotel next door.’ By now the wedding gifts had been moved to a more central table and piled high. And that’s why I had to dig through a table of wedding gifts to retrieve one before heading out the door with it. Not loving the glances I got.”

7. “At my wedding, my mother-in-law stood up and declared, ‘This marriage between H and what’s-her-name will never last.’ I am ‘what’s-her-name’ and after 13 years, I’m still pissed (and happily married).”

8. “The MC gets up and does his last little speech and says the father of the groom is going to get up to finish his speech. This was apparently a complete lie — the mother bursts into the room with her ballroom dance partner, dragging him by the tie to some Tina Turner song, and starts doing the most inappropriate dance I have ever seen in the middle of the dance floor. I felt sick and the bride looked like she was going to cry.”

9. “My uncle, who was doubling as the photographer, fell through a wall because he was so drunk. He also loaded all of his film wrong and no pictures came out.”

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10. “My mother-in-law showed up to the venue wasted at 10 a.m., took pictures of me topless before I put on my dress, fell on my dress and kept saying ‘HEART YOU’ so she didn’t have to say ‘I love you’ to me since I was stealing her son away from her.”

11. “The DJ throws ‘Kung Fu Fighting’ into the set. I look out to see this sweaty drunk weirdo start to kung-fu kick the main pole holding up this monster tent. Kicking it to the beat and karate chopping it. Hard. The lights actually started to flicker, and the tent along with the lanterns and decorations would jump with every hit. Nobody did a thing. Everyone just stared at him. Then he started head-butting the pole. Every smack let out a thud you could actually hear between beats.”

12. “At my wedding, my aunt’s second husband threw his dinner in the trash because it ‘wasn’t steak.’ He insulted the cake (which I made myself) to my husband because it ‘looked like a tree,’ which was the entire point.”

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